Is frolicking on the beach with friends really worth burying your mama?

Updated: Aug 6, 2020


Dear Dr. Smith,

I love your column in The Saunders Report. In fact, it's the main reason I subscribe. I have never been to a psychologist but feel comfortable writing to you.

I am a 56-year-old divorced woman who loves being alone. I'm what you call a homebody and my friends are always fussing because I never want to go out.

Here is the problem, though: now that the mayor of Durham and the governor have ordered us to stay in because of Covid-19, all I want to do now is go out. I am constantly looking for excuses to leave home, even if it's just to go to the store to pick up a loaf of bread. I recently went to Costco four times in one week.

Can you tell me why a person who has never, ever had a problem staying home except to go to work and to church now suddenly seems unable to stay home? Is it because I just want to defy authority or live dangerously?